We get it: sometimes it’s easier to give into excuses not to have sex. Be honest, how many times have you turned down sex this month with the same excuse? Did you know that sex can actually cure headaches! How, you might ask? Sex releases endorphins, the so called, pleasure chemicals, which are nature’s natural painkiller. Research shows that spending time between the sheets can be a great stress reliever, reduce the risk of heart disease, and improve immunity.
Modern life is filled with more 10 hour workdays and crushing deadlines, than candlelit dinners and bubble baths for two. Research shows that nearly a third of women and 15% of men lack the desire to have sex regularly.
Sex isn’t the ultimate litmus test of a loving relationship, but physical intimacy is a vital way to stay emotionally connected to each other. But, for millions of couples, there’s trouble behind closed doors. It’s estimated that 1 out of 3 couples have mismatched libidos, causing feelings of pressure, resentment, and rejection.
So, if you’re someone who’s sexual desire needs no boosting, but your partners’ does (or vice versa), we have a few tips to rekindle the romance:
- Communicate. If the abstinence is becoming an issue, stop silently hoping that things will work themselves out. Be open, honest and sensitive to needs not being met.
- Get a medical check-up. Eliminate physiological causes for your lack of desire. Evaluate side-effects of prescription medications.
- Take action. Once you’ve talked things trough, start resolving them physically. Get in the bedroom and stoking the embers.
- Add sex to your to-dos. Make having sex a bigger priority. We schedule work meetings or drinks with friends - so why not sex? Make a weekly sex date and stick to it. This means you’re making a commitment to having an active sex life and will be less likely to make excuses.
- If you prefer sex twice a week and your partner likes twice a month … have sex every week. This may not be perfect for either of you but being with someone who’s unhappy about sex is pretty far from perfect too.
- Eat clean. Follow a heart healthy diet. A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found a link between high cholesterol and women who have difficulty with arousal and orgasm.
- Exercise often. Less stress, an improved mood, and higher self-esteem are all health benefits of exercise. Studies show sexual satisfaction correlates directly to fitness.
- Laugh together. Reboot your sexual appetite by doing more things together.
- Be adventurous. Variety adds the proverbial spice. Think like a realtor … Location, location, location!
- It’s unreasonable for you to expect your partner to take care of each and every desire. Take responsibility and satisfy your own needs from time to time.
- Get help. If you’ve given having more sex an honest go, but to no avail, seek professional advice.
Both partners need to make an effort to understand each other’s needs and feelings to feel closer and more connected physically and emotionally. Isn’t that what healthy relationships are all about?
Source: www.psychologytoday.com, www.medscape.com, www.inquisitr.com, www.thehealthsite.com, www.belmarrahealth.com, www.lifescript.com, www.prevention.com, www.webmd.com, www.health.com, www.happywivesclub.com, www.alternet.org
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