When you get pregnant you’re excited and cautiously optimistic, but in your head and in your heart, you’re preparing your life, your body, and your heart for this baby. Truth is, your life was altered from the moment conception took place; you are a mom and it’s heart-breaking that you can’t hold your baby in your arms.
Being part of the “invisible moms” club was not something you’ve signed up for, right? Just know that you’re not alone and that this is something that happened to you, not something you did. Did you know that 15 to 20% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage? Fact is, there is very little about pregnancy loss that women are in control of. Biology takes over and, in a way, you’re along for the ride.
So, where to from here? How do you survive this? There are no easy answers, but these strategies may help:
If you’re afraid for all of this to happen again; know that only 1 in 100 women experience recurrent miscarriages and more of 60% of these women go on to have a successful pregnancy.
Miscarriage is bereavement, it will take time. However, know that the peaks and troughs will gradually even out to a place where you’ll be able to look back on them with a sharp tug on the heartstrings, but no longer that panicked, howling anguish.
Be kind to yourself, you’ve been through a lot.
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