So, in an ideal world, everyone would find their Prince Charming or Sleeping Beauty and live happily ever after, right? But, in the real world life happens; people make mistakes, they change with time and the strains and stressors of everyday life causes some marriages to fail. South Africa has a divorce rate of 61.2%. You are not alone!
When you got married you were so sure that it would be “till death do us part”, but here you are, over forty and you’re “happily ever after” have come to an abrupt end. Yes, the man you thought you’d spend the rest of your life with; the father of your children, walked out the door, and with that all of your hopes and dreams for a life you thought you’d have. So, how do you survive the mid-life divorce?
Without question, coping with divorce can be one of the most difficult challenges a person can face. Mental Health experts say the pain it causes rivals grieving the death of a loved one. The only difference is that the person your grieving for, is still very much alive!
The reality of a divorce is that there are significant losses experienced by everyone involved: the presumed happy future, financial security, affection and love … all of this ripped out from under you.
For Divorced women, especially those of “a certain age”, some of the possibilities younger women take for granted dry up. They often have to deal with a lot of discrimination when it comes to jobs, especially if they’ve been home taking care of the kids whilst their careers played second fiddle. And what about dating? It can be brutal “out there” in post-divorce dating land! Yes, it’s definitely a lot harder for a woman over 40 to lose her dream of a family.
Divorce is an emotional roller coaster that no one should ride alone. And remember, there’s no shame in seeking professional help to rebuild your life.
Source: www.huffingtonpost.com, www.newinki.com, www.webmd.com, www.moneycrashers.com, www.divorce360.com, heshistory.com, www.psychologytoday.com, www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com, www.helpguide.org, www.lifescript.com
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