Just about ready to tie the knot? Congratulations!
We know, we know, there are a hundred and one arrangements to be taken care of, and it seems as if every interaction with your sweetie revolves around wedding details, right? It’s so easy to get caught up in wedding planning. So fun and so important …. However, now is also the time to get ready for a lasting and happy marriage.
Love is bliss, especially when you know you’ve found the right person to spend the rest of your life with. But marriage is also one of the biggest commitments you’ll make in a lifetime and it’s important to make sure that both of you are on the same page about what kind of couple you want to be.
Don’t be fooled into thinking that love is enough to make the wheels of married life run effortlessly. Truth is, marriage will exacerbate your prior problems, not fix them. The important conversations before you get married will become the blueprint for your marriage and family to follow.
Here are a few crucial topics to discuss before you get hitched:
- Talk about finances. Are you a spender or a saver? Talk about how you will manage your money in the future before you start combining assets. Discuss bank accounts and bill-sharing. Do you have outstanding debt and what is the plan for paying it off?
- Discuss family planning. Don’t assume that you’re on the same page about this. Talk about if and when you want to have kids. Include career goals in this discussion.
- What would a breach of trust mean to you? For some, unacceptable behaviour can mean flirting, sending texts or having an emotional affair. For others, the only deal-breaker may be sleeping with someone else. Be clear on what you expect.
- Compare values and morals. Think about spiritual beliefs for instance; sometimes people have strong opinions on this and expect their partner to comply. You may not always agree, but it’s important to figure out how to mesh values and morals.
- Consider the legal side. While antenuptial agreements are the most common type of marriage contract, there are a number of marriage agreements that should be considered to ensure a happy marriage without financial risk to one another. Do your homework, it’s always best to speak to a lawyer before making up your mind.
- Are you willing to accept and love your partner’s family and friends? Are there similarities between the two families? When it comes to traditions, do you have any, and are both of you up for it?
- Sex and intimacy? Are you on the same page? It takes more than sex to build a strong marriage, but it is nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it. Articulate your needs and expectations.
Although this is by no means a complete to-do list, it’s a good starter kit on how to save your marriage before it even starts.
Choose to love each other, even in those moments when you struggle to like each other. Love is a commitment, not a feeling.
Good luck on this amazing journey!
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