Most of us get the jitters before giving a speech. Yeah, it is normal to feel nervous in some social situations; for example, going on a date or giving a presentation may cause sweaty palms, but you just kind of jump into it without worrying too much about being boring or awkward, or making a social faux pas.
As humans we all want to be liked. We all want to fit in. So, where exactly does ordinary run-of-the-mill shyness or fear of humiliation end, and social anxiety begin? Just because you get nervous in social situations doesn’t mean you have social anxiety disorder. Most of us are shy or self-conscious from time to time – yet it doesn’t get in the way of our everyday functioning. Social anxiety disorder, on the other hand, does interfere with your normal routine and causes tremendous stress.
Do you find yourself overwhelmed by thoughts like: “I know I will end up looking like a fool”, or “People will think I’m stupid”, or “I won’t have anything to say, I’ll seem boring?”
Social anxiety disorder has been dubbed “the disorder of missed chances”. It is the most common anxiety disorder, preventing millions from living the life they want for fear of being judged or embarrassed.
Some people experience anxiety in most social and performance situations, a condition known as generalized social anxiety disorder. For others with social phobia, anxiety is connected with specific social situations, such as speaking to strangers, eating at restaurants, or going to parties.
Social phobics believe that they need to be close to perfect in order to not be kicked out of the tribe. Research supports the notion that people with social anxiety disorder rate their own behaviour more poorly than others observing them – they’re often not as socially inept as they think they are – but their social anxiety tells them otherwise. Yes, they often realise that their fear of being judged is somewhat irrational, but they still can’t help feeling anxious. Yes, ironically the people we would never suspect of having difficulty navigating social situations, often struggle the most.
Researchers believe that social anxiety is partially genetic; people with this disorder often find that it runs in their family. Environmental factors, such as childhood bullying and social stressors can also contribute.
The physical symptoms of this chronic mental disorder include shortness of breath, trembling a racing heart or tightness in the chest. Extreme sweating and or a constant red face are just some of the embarrassing physical symptoms; sufferers often feel dizzy or faint as well. Typically those with social anxiety disorder engage in escapist or avoidant behaviour. According to Dr Richard Heimberg, director of Temple University’s Adult Anxiety Clinic, people with social anxiety purposely avoid places or events where they know they’d be forced to interact with people; these situations may be so frightening that they get anxious just thinking about them and go to great lengths to avoid them.
The silver lining is that social anxiety disorder responds well to treatment. While lifestyle changes alone aren’t enough to overcome social anxiety disorder, they can support the overall treatment process. So, limit stimulants such as tea, coffee, caffeinated soda or energy drinks. Limit the use of alcohol and quit smokin. Make sure to get enough sleep, being well rested will help you to stay calm.
Cognitive behavioural therapy has been shown to work the best for treating disabling anxiety. This therapy is based on the premise that if you change the way you think about social situations, you’ll feel and function better.
Medication is often considered most helpful when used in addition to therapy and self-help techniques.
Social anxiety usually gets worse with time, and that is why early intervention is important to get the coping tools to live the life that you want and deserve. So, if your social anxiety is severe and you are paralysed by the thought of social interaction, seek help from a clinical psychologist sooner rather than later.
Source: www.helpguide.org, health.usnews.com, barendpsychology.com, www.healthline.com, www.mayoclinic.org
DISCLAIMER: The information on this website is for educational purposes only, and is not intended as medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. If you are experiencing symptoms or need health advice, please consult a healthcare professional.
