Uh oh! Dealing with a break up? Guy of your dreams disappeared suddenly? Or, maybe you’ve been rejected from that dream job – the one that would launch you onto the path to achieve all your career aspirations?
Truth is, rejection, no matter who its coming from, is like a punch to the gut. The region of your brain that lights up when you’re in physical agony also goes haywire when you suffer rejection, says Naomi Eisenberger, Ph.D., assistant professor of psychology at the University of California; evidence, she says, that our head is signalling to our body that being dumped, actually hurts.
Also, advances in technology, and the urge to express ourselves as powerful women, mean rejection has never been so easy to dole out. Swiping left on Tinder, Blocking on Twitter … a firm “no” is never far away, but although rejection is as much part of our world as approval, the bitter sting never fails to shock.
So, yes, it stings, but strong confident women know that it has no reflection on who you are. Remember ladies, no matter what a great catch you are, there will always be that guy who doesn’t see it, or that potential boss who doesn’t get it.
Understanding the chemistry of rejection begins with acknowledging our undeniable value as human beings. To chance our perceived impression of rejection, we must first solidify our self-worth.
Here’s how:
- Don’t take it personally. Know that even though you’re smart, powerful, intelligent and strong; there will always be people who won’t be into you. Not because they think that you’re not good enough, but because taste differs. It’s that simple.
- Acknowledge your emotions and deal with them head-on.
- Don’t let rejection define who you are. Know that your identity and self-worth is not determined by rejection. If you didn’t get the job, or the guy; it means it wasn’t right for you. One person’s opinion does not define who you are.
- Restore your sense of belonging. Surround yourself with people who love you. Reach out to friends and family to remind you that you are a valued and respected member of your “tribe”.
- Don’t make it part of your future. Rejection is part of life. Just because things didn’t work out, doesn’t mean you’re a failure, or that nothing will work out in the future.
- Don’t dwell on the downsides. Assess the situation and concentrate on the positives.
- Learn from rejection. Turn it into an opportunity for self-growth. See it as an opportunity to move forward with more wisdom.
- Give yourself the love and respect you deserve. Remind yourself of your amazing traits and invaluable qualities which undoubtedly have been overlooked.
- Celebrate your courage. Getting turned down means that you’ve stepped outside your comfort zone and that you’re living life to the fullest. Rejection means you’ve pushed the limits.
Remember to never confuse rejection with self-worth.
You are beautiful, smart, kind and funny. You are unique. You are never too much and always enough.
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