So, has your “till death do us part” become a little weathered by the world around you?
Let’s face it, life is crazy! Work, family, commitments, school, soccer, dance classes, friends, health, birthday parties, babies, and so on. Our busy lives are filling up every second of the day, especially around this time of the year, right?
Are you worried about losing the “couple” part of your life? How much time did you spend together this week?
Aren’t most fights about protests against emotional disconnection? In her book, Hold Me Tight, Dr Sue Johnson explains that emotional connection is not just affection or closeness in day-to-day living. It is the kind of primal safety you get from knowing that you are seen, valued and comforted in your most vulnerable moments.
Rather, it’s the kind of knowledge that your partner empathizes with you and will turn toward you when you need them. This kind of safety is crucial to the foundation of relationships. But, how do you keep the emotional connection alive through the rigors of your everyday to-do list?
Here’s the thing though, staying emotionally connected when you are super busy doesn’t have to be complicated. Truth is a few simple, intentional moves are all you need!
- Affirm your love before the day begins. Before work, kids and fatigue; make sure that your partner feels your love. Begin the day with a great kiss, or at the very least a sincere “I love you.” This may sound simple, but it’s often the simple things that make the biggest difference.
- Schedule a date. I know, I know- big surprise. Date nights = everyone’s solution to emotional closeness, but seriously, finding the time to spend together is crucial. A 2012 study found that “couple time” has a decisive impact on the success of relationships.
- Touch often. Humans need physical contact; it’s one of our most basic needs! Any kiss over 5 seconds has wonderful possibilities …
- Have sex, ok this one is obvious.
- Share a hot Bev. Pick your poison – coffee, cocoa, tea – but do this every day, even if it’s just for 5 minutes in the morning. Make it a daily habit and it will give you a chance to connect even briefly.
- Check in during the work day – Send a text or email.
- Leave a note. It takes 3 minutes to jot something down. Who doesn’t like getting a handwritten love letter?
- Go green and shower together. Seriously – you can save time, enjoy each other’s company while saving the planet all at once!
- Sweat together. Working out together will kill two birds with one healthy stone. Studies show that 94% of couples stick to a fitness program when they do it together. Other research shows that sex is more enjoyable when you’re physically fit. Enough said.
- Ask this question every day. How was your day, hon? It may sound like a cliché, but studies done by psychologist Angela Hicks from Westminster University, show that couples who discuss recent positive events with each other experience increased feelings of intimacy.
- Say thank you and say it often. For taking out the trash or for going to work every day so that all of you can have a better life. Make sure that your partner knows that you appreciate all that they do.
Love and connection is a choice; yeah, it truly is that simple.
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