Charles Darwin. Christina Aguilera. Bill Gates. J.K Rowling. Any idea what all these famous people have in common? No, it’s not their large bank balances. All of these well known personalities are, like a third of the world’s population, introverts.
For a long time, introverts had a somewhat negative reputation. They were thought of as loners, socially awkward or not that fun to be around. However, the truth is simply that introverts get their energy from solitude, while extroverts recharge in social situations. It has nothing to do with being a loner or not having friends and it certainly doesn’t mean that introverts shy away from the spotlight either. In fact, many actors and famous performers are introverts too.
The problem is that the world, especially in the last century, hasn’t exactly been set up as an “introvert friendly” place. Think of open plan offices at work, where you’re expected to have conversations in earshot of everyone, do your work in a cloud of noise and just generally “get on with it” in an extroverted, sociable way. This way of working doesn’t suit everyone, and it’s been proven to be counterproductive for many people.
The same applies in our schools. We make children sit in groups of four at their desks and collaborate on every project. If a child is quiet or prefers to work alone, we label them as “shy” and sometimes even “problem children”, because they aren’t upholding to our norm of the extroverted ideal. This needs to change if we want to get the best out of everyone, including introverts.
So how do you tell if you’re an introvert? Perhaps you prefer one-on-one conversations to group discussions. Or you find it easier to express yourself in writing rather than talking about it. Maybe small talk is your worst thing, but you can talk at length about subjects that are really important to you. There are a number of excellent quizzes you can do to see where you lie on the extrovert/introvert scale, or whether you are an ambivert (somewhere in between).
Right, so you’ve identified what you are, but now you’re not sure how best to deal with the introverts in your life. Try these tips on interacting with introverts:
Hopefully this has helped you understand introverts and how they’re different to extroverts, which boils down simply to how each type recharges their brains. Both types have so much to offer the world, so a better appreciation of introverts can help us develop stronger relationships, be more productive and contribute to our overall happiness.
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