Whether it’s due to sleep deprivation, money worries, new responsibilities, or the relationship dynamic shifting; dads have a lot to take on board.

In 2013 statistics by Wisner et al demonstrated that at least 1 in 7 new mamas suffer from postnatal depression. What followed was greater focus and concentration on new mothers’ mental health.

Here’s the thing, most Ob/Gyns check new mamas for symptoms of depression during their postpartum visit, but what about dads?

Recent studies show that 1 in 10 dads experience perinatal depression – a term that includes forms of prenatal and postpartum depression – from the first trimester of their partner’s pregnancy to six months after baby’s birth. What is concerning is that the number spikes to a whopping 26% during the first three-to-six-month period after baby’s arrival.

While hormone levels are considered a major factor in female postpartum, studies found that men with postpartum depression may also be experiencing some hormonal mayhem. Following the birth of an infant decreased testosterone, and increased depressive symptoms have been observed in fathers. Why testosterone dips, aren’t yet understood.

The first step is to recognize what’s going on and to take it seriously. Prenatal and postpartum depression is common and treatable. Treatment for paternal postpartum depression varies, but it often includes psychotherapy and an antidepressant.

Common symptoms for prenatal or postpartum depression in men include:

• Anger, sudden outbursts, or violent behavior.
• Feelings of worthlessness and inadequacy.
• Increase in risk-taking behavior, including turning to substances such as alcohol, or prescription drugs.
• Low motivation.
• Physical symptoms such as headaches, muscle aches, stomach, or digestive issues.
• Poor concentration.
• Suicidal thoughts.
• Withdrawing from relationships.
• Working a lot more or a lot less.

Traditional attitudes towards fatherhood and masculinity can mean that men are less likely to talk about how they feel. There’s always, always the pressure of masculine stereotypes. If fathers are expected to be strong and supportive, who are they if they are depressed?

However, the stakes are high. Parents’ mental health greatly affects the well-being of a child. Although the effect of a father’s depression on children is not as well documented as that of a mother’s, we know that dads who are depressed are less involved with their kids, and that can lead to language delays, disruptive behavior, or a higher rate of social and emotional problems later on.

Here’s the thing, asking for help doesn’t mean that you’re helpless. It means you’re doing what you need to so you can be the best partner – and best dad – you can be.

Adjusting to a new baby takes time. It’s normal for your mood to be a little rocky in the process. But if your symptoms last for more than two to three weeks, consider help from a counselor or psychotherapist.

Source: britishjournalofmidwifery.com, utswmed.org, nct.org.uk, psycom.net, bbc.com, pregnancybirthbaby.org.au, whattoexpect.com, parents.com, menshealth.com