Do you remember when you first met, how spending time alone together was your highest priority? You probably spent the majority of your leisure time together, and the time you spent together was probably the most enjoyable part of your week, right?
Are you longing to be part of that perfect couple once again? That’s right, we’re talking about that relationship where you still lust after one another like lovesick teens!
But, what if your relationship is less fiery and more… well, friendly and dull? We get it, life’s a race and we’re all running! Between work, family and social commitments, there’s hardly any time to spend with your significant other. Truth is, post kids it can be hard to remember what it felt like to be “the two of you”. Reconciling the erotic and the domestic: not so easy!
The catch-22 is that it is impossible to be in love with someone with whom you’re never alone. Simple as that! Research has shown that one of the major reasons that most relationships fail is because couples don’t give importance to spending enough time together. It’s not that you shouldn’t have your own hobbies that you do alone, because you should, but there should be a balance between doing things together and doing things on your own.
But, how much time together is enough to keep you connected? The good news is that you don’t have to spend a month on a tropical island to reignite the spark! What’s more important is HOW you spend your time together. It’s not about quantity, but more about quality. For some, even folding laundry together can work if you approach it correctly. The key is to interact with one another while you participate in enjoying each other’s company. Turns out that it’s the small positive moments that matter in keeping relationships satisfied. It doesn’t have to be all fireworks, but it must have moments of connection.
So, plan it! Establish a routine. Take the routine and find places where you can have companionship. Get up a half hour earlier to have a cup of coffee together before you both leave for work. Travel together. No, not necessarily to Spain, but to work or to gym. Reserve drop-offs for each other, it may not always be possible, but try to make it work. Text each other during the day, just to check in. Have sex. Flirt with each other, investing in “together time” builds intimacy. Be healthy together. Go to gym or sign up for a couple’s dance class. Make the most of kiddies’ nap times, listen to music that you both love. Have a fancy night in. Resolve to feed, bathe and put the kids to bed early, make some gourmet popcorn and share your favourite bottle of wine.
It doesn’t require a lot of money. It doesn’t even require a large chunk of time, but it does demand intention.
So, whatever you do, don’t leave “rendezvousing” up to chance. Building “couple’s time” into your schedule could make a huge difference in how happy you are in your relationship. We’re rooting for you!
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