So, you’re in a happy, healthy, committed relationship? Congratulations. That’s so cool!
But there’s no reason to stop growing just because you’re happy. Someone once said, “The grass is not greener on the other side, it’s greener where you water it”. So true, don’t you think?
Thing is, romantic relationships are constantly evolving entities, continuously changing due to circumstances, stressors, and the everyday ups and downs experienced by both partners. What happens to “me” and to “you” ultimately affects “us”, right?
The latest scientific studies reveal that love is no longer a mystery. Turns out that you can learn its laws and have more control over this riot of emotion than you think! True, grand gestures and gifts aren’t unwelcoming – who doesn’t like to be spoiled now and then? But according to Psychology Today, doing small, positive things for one’s partner is a super effective way of staying happy in a relationship.
Sure, it takes two to tango, but taking the initiative to be a better partner will encourage your significant other to match your efforts. A happier partner equals a happier relationship! Simple as that!
We’ve rounded up a list of easy hacks to inspire you to become an even better partner:
Embrace the “ordinariness”. The trick is to see that the ordinariness can become the real “juice” of intimacy. Sharing the day-to-day loveliness can, and does, become extraordinary.
Do something thoughtful every day. Pop a towel in the dryer while they are in the shower on a frosty day or send a sexy text.
Take over a chore they really hate. If you know that he/she hates filling up the car, and you don’t mind it so much, do it for them.
Be your own person. Have your own interests. Build and maintain a supportive network of friends outside the relationship. Have and give freedom; you’ll have so much more to talk about when you’re together.
Discover new things together. Take a cooking class or a dance class together, or volunteer at a shelter.
Be considerate, patient and understanding. Accept and love your partner, warts and all.
Let the small stuff go. Stop the hissy fits and tantrums. Always being right is not as rewarding as you think. Yes, they may be wrong about which actor played Batman in the 80s, but if it’s not that important, let it go.
Look good. No, you don’t need to look like a super model, but making an effort to look good will make your partner feel important.
Date Yes, and yes!
Hold his/her hand. This sweet interaction is often overlooked. This sign of affection shows that you’re proud to be with your partner.
Learn you partner’s love language. Know what you have to do to make them feel loved.
Ask about their highs and lows, every day. ‘What made you smile today?” or “What was the most challenging part of your day?”
Get it on. Sure, this includes sex, but also so much more. Kiss, hug – be on the same page and fulfil each other’s needs.
Give assurance. Talk about the future; support their hopes and dreams and remind your partner what he/she means to you.
Say: “I love you” every day.
In a positive relationship both partners need to feel valued, loved and nurtured.
“Be kind to yourself, and to each other.”- Ellen DeGeneres
Source: www.bustle.com, tinybuddha.com, www.mindbodygreen.com, www.lifehack.org, www.newlovetimes.com, www.psychologytoday.com, www.dailymind.com, www.thesimplyluxuriouslife.com, www.w24.co.za, mensline.org.au, www.posugar.com, www.msn.com
